A Good Divorce: difficult but possible
The end of a relationship with the couple in crisis. Then if we add, resentment, desire for revenge and anger, the mix can become explosive and make life impossible for everyone. If we view the problems in a different and constructive manner, and often even make life better.
We are living in times where, in the case of different reasons, the number of divorces is on the rise and children. Nonetheless, the family crisis is experienced by the ex-partner as a drama and often as a war to be won.
With this book, I want to make it clear that there is no battle to win a family crisis:
Introduction
A book about Mindful, Peaceful and Conscious Divorce from a Divorce Lawyer with a litigator background? Doesn't this look odd? For the past twenty years, as a divorce lawyer, I have been in court, appeals, and with many clients I have appeared before supreme court judges as an expert in family rights as part of my law practice. I continue to have the feeling that even when I win the case and get the results my client wants, the conflict isn't over, and the situation hasn't improved, actually it often gets worse, especially for children. In fact, most of the divorce cases involve children and they are often the real victims of conflict, with proceedings lasting several years. The longer the proceedings, the more complicated is the relationship between the parties. Therefore, my resolve was to seek alternative solutions to the courtroom, a different way of divorcing that retains the positive relationship between the warring parents with kids.
I have seen how the issues behind separation and divorce decisions are the same the world over. Judges and lawyers in the US and in Europe are facing the same situations and have the same difficulty. The couple fight over trivial matters relating to support, parenting time, vacations, the home, furniture pieces and even wedding gifts. In actual fact, it is all an excuse, the problems are of a different nature, but just a few want to really face them and lawyers, generally speaking, are not trained to delve into the matter. One way for a mindful, conscious and respectful divorce is Collaborative Practice. This process offers the parties the space, the time, the tools and professional help to put into focus and definitively resolve family conflicts positively where all the parties are winners, especially children.
How to help those in difficulty
As we will see, when it is in the midst of a conflict Often friends, parents and relatives, teachers, psychologists and even the family doctor or spiritual guide.
Whoever wants to help you? It does not matter who is right or wrong. They should not judge or deepen the conflict; if they do, they will just cause more harm. It's better to step back, stay close to those involved, try to lower the tone to help you understand. There is not a battle to fight and there are not, nor should there be, winners or losers.
This change in attitude, a real and true no-war pact between the ex-partners is always indispensable when there are children. It is necessary to remind parents that they happen in their lives, they will be able to continue to be as good as they can.
If the parents have compromised their relationship or are inclined towards complete closure, they cause useless damage which is often irreparable for the children. Maintaining an open dialogue, learning to relate in a different way, united in difficulty, is the secret to being good parents even in divorce.
Why a book on Collaborative Practice?
Collaborative Practice started in the United States at the end of the eighties. There are several publications and scientific articles on this subject for the general public. I think a book, with the direct testimony of people who have experienced the collaborative practice, is the best tool to understand a method which has solved many cases in the world.
This book is a simple, easy-to-understand tool for those interested in collaborative practices, for the parties as well as for professionals and lawyers who want to understand this innovative method.
How this book is organized
All aspects of the collaborative practice are explained using examples, cases and true histories that make the situation comprehensible, even the most complicated. Obviously the names of the people have been changed to respect their privacy.
Due to its structure, the book allows for an understanding of the collaborative practice method and possible use. One must consider, however, that this is a case for a precise evaluation of one's personal and financial situation, considering the importance and intricacy of the questions and their outcome.
Who is this book for?
In the first place, this book is meant to be a marriage to a family crisis and to seek a solution to the problems involved. It is also geared for professionals wanting a full picture of the collaborative practice: lawyers, psychologists, social workers and those who deal with conflict in general and family crisis in particular. They will find an innovative, non-judicial method to solve a conflict.
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