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Separate well with collaborative practice

collaborative practice

Separate well with collaborative practice

“The end of a relationship is always a difficult time that inevitably leads to suffering for former partners and children. If you add, as often happens, resentment, desire for revenge and anger, the mixture can become explosive; not surprisingly, the history of divorce proceedings is full of stories of personal, family and financial destruction. Fortunately, collaborative practice has been gaining ground for some years, a non-contentious method for resolving disputes centered on and guided by the parties. Supported by an interdisciplinary team of professionals, the two former partners rediscover the ability to communicate effectively and identify the most advantageous solutions, rather than leaving a judge for every decision on the future of their family. The agreement thus reached reflects exactly their will: who, in fact, is more competent in resolving the differences of a separation, if not the spouses themselves? The book, a guide to collaborative practice, is aimed not only at couples about to separate, but also at all professionals who are confronted with the crisis of the family, such as legal practitioners, psychologists and social workers. "

Preface by Barbara Hummel.

Collaborative practice as a new method of conflict resolution was born in the United States at the beginning of 1990. Since then it has spread all over the world and arrived in Italy in 2000.

In the 2010 the Italian Association of Lawyers of Collaborative Law was born in Milan, which includes many members in all the regions. Also in the 2010 in Rome was established the Italian Institute of Collaborative Law and recently the Collaborative Practice Group of Ronald D. Ousky.

This volume, rich in direct testimonies of those who used collaborative practice, is the best way to understand this method that has solved millions of cases in the world. It is a valuable tool for professionals, legal operators, but also for the general public.

In collaborative practice the interaction between the parties is fundamental and, at times, other professional figures are involved in addition to lawyers: psychologists and couple therapists.

At the center of the question is the well-being of the children, the commitment of the parents to collaborate with each other, never to denigrate the former partner and to request, if necessary, the help of a specialist of the child or a facilitator of family relationships . Each topic is explained through the narration of real cases and situations that have really happened.

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For a general look on the topics discussed below, the index of the book is shown below:

Separate well with collaborative practice.


5             Thanks
7             Preface  (by Barbara H. Hummel)
10           Introduction
12 Break up: difficult but possible
13 How to help those in difficulty
14 Why a book on collaborative practice
14 How This Book Is Organized
15 Who is this book for?
16 How I Got to Collaborative Practice
20           The origins of collaborative practice
22 Collaborative practice in Italy


27 Let's get to the heart of collaborative practice
33 The first four-party meeting
34 The Participation Agreement
45 The power of collaborative practice
45 Forbidden to lie and threaten
49 A procedure guided by the parties
50 The interests of minors in the foreground
53 Is collaborative practice always possible?


61           The collaborative lawyer: a change of paradigm
61 Beyond ethics and professional deontology
64 The principles of the collaborative lawyer
72 But the collaborative lawyer does not stop going to court ...
73           The other collaborative professionals
74 The communication facilitator
86 The child's expert
90 The financial expert
102 A team at work to find the best possible agreement
110         A help from mindfulness
110 The lawyers meditate… and the clients calm down


117         The agreements that protect the transparency of the procedure
118 The Participation Agreement
126 When a communication facilitator is involved
130 When involving a developmental expert
134 When Involving a Financial Expert
138         The ethical standards of collaborative professionals
138 Beyond the deontological obligations
155         Conclusions
157         REFERENCES



Avv. Armando Cecatiello, Lawyer Milan and Rome.
Law Firm Cecatiello, specialized in family law, matrimonial lawyer, divorce lawyer, minor maintenance / custody.