"The end of a relationship is always a difficult time that inevitably brings suffering to former partners and children. If we add, as often happens, resentment, desire for revenge and anger, the mixture can become explosive; It is no coincidence that the case studies of divorce proceedings are full of stories of personal, family and financial destruction. Fortunately, collaborative practice has been affirming for some years, a non-contentious method for resolving disputes centered on the parties and guided by them. Supported by an interdisciplinary team of professionals, the two former partners rediscover the ability to communicate effectively and identify the most advantageous solutions, rather than delegating to a judge every decision on the future of their family. The agreement thus reached reflects exactly their will: who, in fact, is more competent in resolving the divergences of a separation, if not the same spouses? The book, a guide to collaborative practice, is addressed not only to couples about to separate, but also to all professionals who are confronted with the crisis of the family, such as legal practitioners, psychologists and social workers. "
Preface by Barbara Hummel.
Collaborative practice as a new method of conflict resolution she was born in the United States at the beginning of the 1990. Since then it has spread all over the world and has arrived in Italy in the 2000.
In the 2010 the Italian Association of Lawyers of Collaborative Law was born in Milan, which includes many members in all the regions. Also in the 2010 in Rome was established the Italian Institute of Collaborative Law and recently the Collaborative Practice Group of Ronald D. Ousky.
This volume, rich in direct testimonies of those who used collaborative practice, is the best way to understand this method that has solved millions of cases in the world. It is a valuable tool for professionals, legal operators, but also for the general public.
In collaborative practice the interaction between the parties is fundamental and, at times, other professional figures are involved in addition to lawyers: psychologists and couple therapists.
At the center of the question is the well-being of the children, the commitment of the parents to collaborate with each other, never to denigrate the former partner and to request, if necessary, the help of a specialist of the child or a facilitator of family relationships . Each topic is explained through the narration of real cases and situations that have really happened.
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For a general look on the topics discussed below, the index of the book is shown below:
Separate well with collaborative practice.
7 Preface (by Barbara H. Hummel)
12 Let yourself be well: difficult but possible
13 How to help those in need
14 Why a book on collaborative practice
14 How this book is organized
15 Who is this book for?
16 How I got to the collaborative practice
20 The origins of collaborative practice
22 Collaborative practice in Italy
THE ESSENTIAL ELEMENTS OF THE COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE
27 Let's get to the heart of collaborative practice
33 The first four-way meeting
34 The Participation Agreement
45 The strength of collaborative practice
45 Forbidden to lie and threaten
49 A procedure guided by the parties
50 The interest of minors in the foreground
53 Is collaborative practice always possible?
ALL UNITS TO SEPARATE: COLLABORATIVE PROFESSIONALS
61 The collaborative lawyer: a change of paradigm
61 Beyond ethics and professional ethics
64 The principles of the collaborative lawyer
72 But the collaborative lawyer does not stop going to court ...
73 The other collaborative professionals
74 The communication facilitator
86 The minor's expert
90 The financial expert
102 A team at work to find the best deal possible
110 A help from mindfulness
110 Lawyers meditate ... and customers are reassured
MODELS OF COLLABORATIVE AGREEMENTS AND ETHICAL STANDARDS
117 The agreements that protect the transparency of the procedure
118 The Participation Agreement
126 When a communication facilitator is involved
130 When an evolutionary expert is involved
134 When engaging a financial expert
138 The ethical standards of collaborative professionals
138 Beyond the ethical obligations
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Avv. Armando Cecatiello, Lawyer Milan and Rome.
Law Firm Cecatiello, specialized in family law, matrimonial lawyer, divorce lawyer, minor maintenance / custody.